Couples Counseling

Can our relationship heal?

Our goal is to provide you with as many tools as possible to facilitate your healing and growth. Couples therapy together is not only seen as the most effective and successful form of treatment for relationship building and repair, but also all addictive disorders as it provides amazing support for partners of addicts and couples who are in the healing process. 

What can I expect if we go?

The first 3 to 6 months of couple’s recovery are usually the most stressful. Both partners will experience a wide range of powerful feelings. There are often difficulties in the areas of communication styles, intimacy levels, sexuality, spirituality, parenting, past trauma, and finances. Although painful at first, we hold hope for the eventual relief of the far greater pain of living on unhappily.

Some emotions to expect:

Relief: Many hold so much inside that they don't realize or understand how to unburden themselves of the load. Perhaps the end of a double life may bring a sense of accomplishment. Partners also feel a sense of relief at the end of secrecy and the validation of their experience of pain.

Anger: Both partners can expect to experience anger. The revelation that the life partner is struggling or rebelling may trigger much of it, mixed with legitimate hurt and betrayal. Either can feel anger about the need to make changes as part of recovery. Both partners may blame and shame the other. This is a valid part of recovery and healing. As uncomfortable as it is, our guidance and direction in leaning into it in a safe place allows for these emotions to be expressed and validated and the weight ultimately unloaded from you. All cornerstone to acceptance, healing, and rebuilding. 

Hope: The work being done by both partners can bring new life and hope to their relationship.

Self esteem: The self esteem of both partners initially may worsen, but with continued work it will improve. Therapy is work. And sometimes that work points to areas deep within we don't like to see or have worked so hard to conceal deep down inside ourselves. Recognizing our faults, owing them and learning to be better is how we overcome.

Intimacy: Recovering couples began to communicate at a more intimate level, often on issues they have never discussed before. Communication skills such as empathetic listening, being respectful, and expressing vulnerability, are essential to both partners recovery. Knowing how to provide a safe environment and working through hard to understand issues is one of the most empowering things you can do as a partner and drives connection at the most intimate of levels.

What is the next step?

It can be difficult to take the next step and to seek action. But that might be the most important step of your life. You can schedule an appointment or consultation online or call or email us with any questions you may have.